Thursday, November 10, 2011
Thanksgiving Menu ...
Thanksgiving is officially two weeks (that's just 14 days!!) away. Are you ready? Are you getting ready? I feel that by typing this, I'm getting ready. Below is my Thanksgiving menu. These are the foods I make each year because my family and I treasure each one.
Most of these foods are based on tradition we grew up with, but some are my own variation of tradition that have become my own family's tradition. For example, every year growing up, we would eat my grandmother's corn bread dressing recipe. It's delicious and I love it. However, as I began cooking my own Thanksgiving meals, I wanted to try this crockpot version I'd found. Ends up it tastes very similar to my grandmother's recipe (which I still absolutely love!) but it's easier on me.
And we always ate baked sweet potatoes growing up, but I made the sweet potato casserole with pecan topping one year and haven't gone back. If my father, however, is eating Thanksgiving dinner with us, I still bake him a sweet potato.
I love this time of year, and I love Thanksgiving Day. I love my family being gathered around me in a home filled with delicious smells and warmth. I love watching the Macy's parade with my children and husband, just as we did when we were young.
I love these turkeys my mom helped the girls make last year. Each one has "Thanksgiving 2010" written at the top, followed by their names. They loved making them last year, and I think I'll continue it this year. What a great way to have their hand size saved!
I love how we share what we're thankful for before digging in to all that delicious food that will last us several days. I love not having to cook any meals for a few days after that. I love turkey sandwiches ...
Here, I share my menu with you. I hope to have more of the recipes posted separately in the next two weeks, and I will go back and add the links to this menu as I do. Happy food prep, everyone!
-Turkey (roasted)
-Gravy (Just whisk together some of the turkey juice with some butter and sweet rice flour or brown rice flour over heat)
-Crockpot cornbread dressing (stuffing)
-Squash casserole
-Sweet potato casserole
-(Dirty rice, if I have time - another one I grew up with!)
-Broccoli with cheese
-Corn (from my brother-in-law's family farm, sauteed in butter)
-Marinated beets
-Yeast rolls
-Cranberry bread
-Cranberry sauce
-Cranberry jelly
-Fruit salad
-Pecan pie tarts
-Pumpkin pie
-Fresh whipped cream
-(And apple pie if I have time!)
And I love the little cards my daughters made for each place setting last year (sorry, it's blurry!). Again, another new "tradition" I'll keep ...
Wednesday, November 9, 2011
Pumpkin Baked Oatmeal
If you've been reading very much of my blog, you know that baked oatmeal is one of my favorite breakfasts to fix - especially on cold mornings. It was one of my first recipes to share with you - and for good reason. I've probably made baked oatmeal more than any other recipe in my life. We have a history, baked oatmeal and I.
So when I saw some people talking about baked pumpkin oatmeal on my twitter feed the other day, you can imagine my excitement. Why hadn't I ever thought of this, what with my love for pumpkin and baked oatmeal and all ... why hadn't I ever combined them? I've put apples and raisins in it on many occasions, but never pumpkin. I must confess I didn't click on any of the links in that feed - a combination of being in a hurry and also wanting to come up with my version based purely from my original baked oatmeal recipe.
I woke up to freezing temperatures this morning and just happened to have some leftover pumpkin in the refrigerator from some pumpkin muffins the other day (which I forgot to photograph for you!), so I threw this and that into the bowl and we had pumpkin baked oatmeal this morning.
And it is good ... and perfect for this time of the year.
By the way, did you realize that Thanksgiving is only 15 days away? I had a mini panic attack when I realized that, but I'm starting on the prep early next week so I should have plenty of time. Tomorrow, I plan on posting my Thanksgiving menu for you. I don't have all of the recipes from my menu on this blog, but I hope to have a few more of them for you before the big day, and will create links within my menu as I get them posted.
For now, go make some of this oatmeal if you can tolerate gluten-free oats.
Projected prep time: 5 minutes; Projected bake time: 35-40 minutes
(Printable Recipe)
2 cups certified gluten-free rolled oats
2 large eggs
1 cup pumpkin puree
3/4 cup milk
1/2 cup packed dark brown sugar
1 1/2 Tbsp. oil
1 tsp. baking powder
1 tsp. cinnamon
1/4 tsp. kosher salt
1/8 tsp. ground ginger
Dash of ground cloves
Preheat oven to 350 degrees.
Mix all ingredients and pour into an 8x8 baking dish. Bake 35 to 40 minutes, or until baked all the way through and feels somewhat firm to the touch.
Enjoy!
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Wednesday, November 2, 2011
Green Tomato Pie
What better way to use up those not-ready-yet tomatoes in your garden, before they freeze, than in a pie?
One of my best friends texted me photos of her canning last weekend - saving her remaining tomatoes before their snow storm. She had jars and jars of green tomato preserves and green tomato pickles. And a green tomato pie.
Really? Green tomato pie? I'd never heard of one before. I've made cake out of tomatoes before, but not green ones. Intrigued, I decided to give it a go for the Gluten Free Ratio Rally this month. (If you aren't familiar with the rally, check out my rally page where I have links to all my rally posts as well as the first host post that explains what it's all about.)
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The ratio I used is Michael Ruhlman's 3:2:1 pie dough ratio. 3 parts flour: 2 parts fat: 1 part liquid. The dough was a challenge for me this month - but I must admit to only giving it one try due to everything that's been going on and my exhaustion! I must say that the only real success I've had with gluten-free pie crust in the past has been when I've used a flour blend containing a gum, or have used egg. This crust was no exception to that, though it did roll out nicely for me to place in the pie pan without too much trouble.
Note that if you use butter instead of shortening or lard, as Ruhlman points out, there is water in butter so you won't need a full 4 ounces (the first amount the pie dough ratio is based on) of liquid. You'll see how I cut back on the liquid in the recipe below.
I thought this time around I'd try to avoid any gums and also avoid egg, instead using a flax slurry. My hope was that the slurry would be enough to prevent the dough from crumbling - but it was to no avail. I even did an egg wash over the crust and pre-baked it, but it still came out crumbly. When I try this ratio crust again, I'll be substituting an egg yolk for the flax slurry and some or all of the water. I think (I hope!) that will make the difference and give me a crust I'm happier with, because I'm already happy with the taste of this crust. When I try it, I'll come back and edit this with hopefully successful results.
Also, because I could tell the crust was going to crumble, I decided not to top the filling with more dough or lattice strips. Instead, I took the remaining dough and crumbled it together with several heaping spoonfuls of dark brown sugar and some chopped pecans to make a streusel topping. That was a good decision, as it turned out delicious.
I have an assortment of tomatoes in my garden and used green (unripe) yellow pear, Roma and black zebra tomatoes for this pie. I was running out of light when I took the photos of the baked pie, so it still looks runny in the photos. No worries, though - once it cools, the pie filling thickens nicely.
Did we like the green tomato pie? Beyond a shadow of doubt, YES. Both daughters said it was one of the best pies they'd ever eaten, and my husband and I were equally pleased with the results. We'll be making more of this pie at the end of every growing season! The recipe for this pie was inspired by the Green Tomato Pie III on allrecipes.com. I changed several things, but that's the recipe that my friend above directed me to when asked for her recipe.
Green Tomato Pie with Ratio Crust
(Printable Recipe)
Crust:
Projected crust prep time: 15 minutes, then chill before rolling and you may want to pre-bake at 350 degrees for 10-15 minutes
1 oz. (29 g) white rice flour
2 oz. (58 g) tapioca starch
1 oz. (29 g) teff flour
2 oz. (58 g) sweet rice flour
2 oz. (58 g) almond flour
4 oz. (112 g) brown rice flour
8 oz. (2 sticks) salted butter, cut into tiny pieces and very cold or frozen (I find if I used salted butter I don't need to add salt to the dough. If you use unsalted, add about a scant 1/2 tsp. of kosher salt)
*(See notes above for liquid, but I used a flax slurry as part of my liquid: 1 tbsp. or 1/4 oz. milled flax seed mixed in 2 tbsp. or 1 oz. water and let it sit in the freezer 10 minutes to get it cold. I won't be doing this next time. I'll be trying an egg yolk.)
*(Again, see notes above, but I used an additional 2 tbsp. or 1 oz. of ice water)
Egg wash (optional)
Green tomato filling:
Projected prep time: 15-20 minutes; Bake time for pie, not including pre-bake on crust: 50 minutes
4 1/2 cups (1 lb. 2 3/8 oz.) chopped green tomatoes
1 1/2 cups (10 1/2 oz.) organic pure cane sugar
Scant 1/2 tsp. kosher salt
1 1/2 tbsp. apple cider vinegar (I use Bragg's brand)
1 oz. (29 g or 4 tbsp.) tapioca starch
1 tsp. ground cinnamon
1/4 tsp. ground nutmeg
Streusel topping:
Remaining pie dough
Several heaping spoonfuls dark brown sugar
Chopped pecans
For pie dough, sift flours together in a large bowl.
Add butter pieces.
Use your fingers, a pastry blender or a food processor in pulses to mix, but I find I get the best results with my fingers. Blend the flour and butter together until it is in large crumbs, with several larger pea-sized pieces.
Add little amounts of ice water (see notes about this above - I'll be using egg yolk next time with ice water, or perhaps no ice water depending on consistency after adding yolk) at a time, tossing water together with flour mixture with a fork until it becomes a dough. Shape dough into two disks of equal size, wrap in plastic and refrigerate until ready to roll out.
Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Roll out one pie dough disk enough to fill the bottom and sides of a deep dish pie pan (roll between two sheets of parchment paper for ease in transfer).
Carefully transfer dough by turning paper upside down and gently peeling it off the paper into the pan. If any dough remains on the paper, remove it and press it onto the pan. If you desire, use an egg wash over the dough before pre-baking the crust for 10-15 minutes.
In a large bowl, toss chopped green tomatoes with sugar and apple cider vinegar. Add salt, tapioca starch, cinnamon and nutmeg and gently toss with tomato mixture. Pour into pre-baked shell.
In a smaller bowl, mix remaining unused dough scraps from disk with several heaping spoonfuls of dark brown sugar and chopped pecans with your fingers until crumbly. Use your judgment on the amount of sugar and pecans.
Sprinkle over green tomato filling.
Bake at 350 degrees for 50 minutes, then transfer to a wire rack to cool. For best results, don't cut into the pie until it's had a chance to cool for a while. You'll be eating green tomato cobbler/crisp if you cut into it sooner.
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| As noted above, it was pretty runny in these photos because it was hot out of the oven. It firms up more after cooling. |
I hope you enjoy! Be sure to visit Lisa's post at Gluten Free Canteen and see her delicious apple recipe as well as all of the other recipes from this month's participants. Thank you , Lisa, for hosting us this month!
(And please let me know if you find any omissions or glaring errors - I'm falling asleep as I finish this post up!)
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Monday, October 31, 2011
Pumpkin Apple White Chocolate Chip Brownies
I can't believe I almost let October pass without posting a pumpkin recipe! These brownies will be equally tasty in November, or December - or anytime.
The recipe is inspired by the apple brownies recipe in Cooking Down East by Marjorie Standish. Bake up a batch for your trick-or-treaters to enjoy today, and be safe out there! This post is also linking up to two delicious recipe parties for the season. Check out the details at the end of this post.
Projected prep time: 15 minutes; Bake time: 40 minutes
(Printable Recipe)
1/4 cup salted butter (1/2 stick)
1 cup organic pure cane sugar
1 egg
3/4 cup pumpkin puree
1 cup green apple, peeled and chopped fine (1 good sized apple is about a cup)
1/2 cup chopped pecans (optional)
1/2 cup, rounded (61 g or 2 1/8 oz.) millet flour
1/2 cup (67 g or 2 3/8 oz.) brown rice flour
1/4 cup (35 g or 1 1/4 oz.) sweet rice flour
1/2 level tsp. baking powder
Scant 1/2 tsp. baking soda
1/4 tsp. kosher salt
1/2 tsp. ground cinnamon
1/2 cup gluten-free white chocolate chips
Preheat oven to 350 degrees and grease a 7x11-inch pan.
Cream butter and add sugar gradually, then add pumpkin and mix well, scraping if necessary.
Beat egg into mixture until creamy.
Mix in chopped pecans if using, then apples.
Sift flour together with baking powder, soda, salt and cinnamon. Mix into pumpkin/apple mixture.
Fold white chocolate chips and pour mixture into pan.
Bake at 350 degrees for 40 minutes.
Place pan on wire rack to cool. These brownies taste best when completely cooled.
Enjoy!
And to add to the festivities today and the upcoming season, I'm linking this post up to two delicious recipe parties! T.R. over at No One Likes Crumbley Cookies is hosting a pumpkin party blog hop #pumpkinparty and EA Stewart over at The Spicy RD is hosting #applelove recipes. Be sure to go check out the delicious recipes that T.R., EA and all of the other participants have posted. You're sure to find more than one in each party to satisfy every loved one this harvest season!
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Sunday, October 30, 2011
Cinnamon Raisin Yeast Bread
There's nothing quite like enjoying a slice of fresh cinnamon raisin yeast bread slathered with butter, toasted or not. Even better: A slice made into cinnamon toast topped with broiled butter, cinnamon and sugar. Especially on a cold fall day.
I can honestly say this is one of the best, if not the best, gluten-free cinnamon raisin breads I've ever eaten. My family agrees. I hope you enjoy it as much as we have!
I fully intended to share this with you last week, after sharing the parent recipe for this bread - the regular yeast bread - in the prior post. Last week ended up being one of the busiest I'd had in a long time (and that's saying a lot since I've had some very busy days so far this school year!) - on top of finding out that I had a reactivated case of the horrid mono of my teens. No wonder I've been so exhausted lately! (And I'm supposed to get as much rest as possible with these busy kiddos of mine - ha!) So every time I finally had a spare moment to sit down to edit the very few photos I had of this lovely bread, I felt like I would fall asleep. I was determined to get it to you today, though.
For photos of the recipe steps in this bread, you can look at the ones in the other yeast bread post. They are pretty much the same.
Projected prep time: 15 minutes; Rise time: 45 minutes; Bake time: 55 minutes
(Printable Recipe)
2 cups (298 g or 10.5 oz.) Pamela's bread mix and flour blend
2 1/2 tsp. active dry yeast
1 1/4 cups (10 oz.) milk
1/2 cup (4 oz.) salted butter, cut in small pieces
1/4 tsp. kosher salt
1/4 cup organic pure cane sugar
1 egg
1 cup (137 g or 4 7/8 oz.) brown rice flour
1/3 cup (41 g or 1 1/2 oz.) millet flour
2 or 3 tsp. ground cinnamon
3/4 cup whole seedless raisins
Hot water
Place raisins in bowl and cover with hot water. Let sit.
Combine Pamela's bread flour with yeast in a large mixing bowl and set aside.
In a smaller bowl, combine brown rice flour and millet flour with the cinnamon.
Pour milk into a saucepan and add butter pieces, sugar and salt. Heat on medium until butter is melted and the temperature is 115 degrees.
Pour warm milk mixture over Pamela's flour and yeast, and beat with a wooden spoon several seconds until blended. Add egg and beat until incorporated. Place dough hook on mixer and beat at high speed for about two minutes. If you don't have a stand mixer, you can do this with a wooden spoon.
With mixer running at low speed, gradually add the remaining flours. Gradually increase speed as the flour combines until you can beat at medium-high without flour going out of the bowl. Beat for a minute and then scrape bowl with wooden spoon, then return to medium-high speed until everything is incorporated, about 30 seconds.
Drain raisins and fold into dough, incorporating all throughout.
Transfer dough to a ceramic or glass bowl and cover with a damp cloth. Place in warm spot for 45 minutes. (I use my oven for this. I turn it to about 100 degrees and then turn it off before I start making the dough, and it's just right when I'm ready to let the dough rise.)
After 45 minutes, dough should be about double in size. (If you are looking at the photos on the regular yeast bread post, just imagine raisins in the dough.)
Heat oven to 375 degrees and grease a loaf pan. Stir dough once and then transfer to greased loaf pan. Wet your fingers and smooth out any bumps on the dough surface. Let it sit on the counter and rise again while the oven is heating.
Bake for 55 minutes or until bread is done. Immediately after pulling it out of the oven, I like to butter the top.
Let it cool in the pan on a wire rack, or out of the pan. I've found it doesn't make much difference so I keep it in the pan.
This bread will keep for a few days at room temperature, but I've found it's better if I freeze some right away for use later in the week. To do this, I wait until the bread is completely cooled and then slice it with a bread knife and place all the slices together in wax paper, then place it in a freezer ziploc and freeze it until I need it. It still tastes fresh after being defrosted.
Enjoy! I'll be making another loaf this week so we have more to enjoy on these cooler days. :)
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Yeast Bread (Perfect for Sandwiches)
There's something about the smell of yeast bread rising, and then baking, that is comforting to me. I always used to love that smell when I'd walk into a bakery, and I loved how it filled my house when I made it. Now, that smell doesn't have the same effect on me when I know it's something that can make me sick. This bread, however, we can eat. And it has the same smell that fills the house and lets everyone know that a hot slice slathered with butter is within reach in just a little while.
I have missed making a good loaf of yeast bread and have tried many times to make bread using my old recipes that you have to knead, experimenting with flours and liquid proportions etc. etc. to no avail. They were usually edible and even tasty, but weren't worthy of a sandwich.
The recipe for this bread is inspired by the same recipe I used to use often when I was growing up. It's easy, doesn't take too long AND it doesn't require kneading. I remembered this recipe recently, from that good old Better Homes and Gardens New Junior Cookbook that I was given so many years ago by my grandparents. After tweaking it several times over, I'm proud to offer you this bread and hope you enjoy it as much as my family does.
My children don't want any other bread for their sandwiches now, and while I do miss the Udi's multi-grain bread, I don't miss the cost. Buying a loaf that lasts for three days' lunches for two children at nearly $7 a loaf (that's what it costs where I live, anyway) adds up. Sure, gluten-free flours are costly as well and you are using a lot in bread, but I figured that I'm coming out ahead when each of these loaves will last through an entire week of sandwiches for both children and leaving a few slices extra for my husband and me. (Also take into consideration the savings when buying ingredients in bulk that you use often through the subscribe and save program on amazon.)
(Printable Recipe)
2 cups (298 g or 10.5 oz.) Pamela's bread mix and flour blend
2 1/2 tsp. active dry yeast
1 1/4 cups (10 oz.) milk
1/2 cup (4 oz.) salted butter, cut in small pieces
1/4 tsp. kosher salt
1/2 tsp. organic pure cane sugar
1 egg
1 cup (137 g or 4 7/8 oz.) brown rice flour
*1/4 cup (29 g or 1 oz.) millet flour
OR
*1/4 cup (33 g or 1 1/8 oz.) teff flour
Combine Pamela's bread flour with yeast in a large mixing bowl and set aside.
In a smaller bowl, combine brown rice flour and millet flour, or teff flour if you prefer to use that over millet (I think I like the millet a little better in this bread), and set aside.
Pour milk into a saucepan and add butter pieces, sugar and salt. Heat on medium until butter is melted and the temperature is 115 degrees.
Pour warm milk mixture over Pamela's flour and yeast, and beat with a wooden spoon several seconds until blended. Add egg and beat until incorporated. Place dough hook on mixer and beat at high speed for about two minutes. If you don't have a stand mixer, you can do this with a wooden spoon.
With mixer running at low speed, gradually add the remaining flours. Gradually increase speed as the flour combines until you can beat at medium-high without flour going out of the bowl. Beat for a minute and then scrape bowl with wooden spoon, then return to medium-high speed until everything is incorporated, about 30 seconds.
Transfer dough to a ceramic or glass bowl and cover with a damp cloth. Place in warm spot for 45 minutes. (I use my oven for this. I turn it to about 100 degrees and then turn it off before I start making the dough, and it's just right when I'm ready to let the dough rise.)
After 45 minutes, dough should be about double in size.
Heat oven to 375 degrees and grease a loaf pan. Stir dough once and then transfer to greased loaf pan. Wet your fingers and smooth out any bumps on the dough surface. Let it sit on the counter and rise again while the oven is heating.
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| Smooth out the bumps or the top will look like the loaf pictured baked below. |
Bake for 55 minutes or until bread is done. Immediately after pulling it out of the oven, I like to butter the top.
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| I didn't smooth the bumps out on this loaf, so the surface is uneven. |
This bread will keep for a few days at room temperature, but I've found it's better if I freeze some right away for use later in the week. To do this, I wait until the bread is completely cooled and then slice it with a bread knife and place all the slices together in wax paper, then place it in a freezer ziploc and freeze it until I need it. It still tastes fresh after being defrosted.
Enjoy!
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Friday, October 14, 2011
Thoughtless Words Can Cut Too Deep: Remembering Pregnancy and Infant Loss
In honor of Pregnancy and Infant Loss Remembrance Day tomorrow, Oct. 15, I thought I'd share with you a column I wrote many years ago while I was still working as a newspaper reporter.
I'll preface the column with telling you that since it was written, I have happily been blessed with two healthy, very spirited and adventurous daughters. And unfortunately have also had two more miscarriages, earlier in pregnancy than our first. The loss of our first child, discovering pregnancy complications with our second pregnancy (oldest daughter) and the incredible stress I worked under as a reporter all led me to quit my job and begin the very full life I have now.
I'm happy with the life I have and wouldn't trade my precious girls for anything. But I will always mourn the loss of my three other babies. The ache has lessened, but will always remain. I ultimately sought professional therapy to help me get back on my feet. If you are struggling for a very long time after a loss (each person is different in how long they need to complete the grief process - there is no right or wrong time frame), please don't discount this. A good, compassionate counselor can do a world of good in helping to cope with grief.
After this column ran, I was contacted by many individuals expressing their thanks. Many had never lost a child, but said they felt the same way about losing other loved ones. Many of the same words apply. I hope it touches those of you who have experienced this loss, and those of you who haven't. I especially hope it touches those of you who haven't, and it gives you a greater understanding of loss.
I’m prefacing what I am about to say with the fact that this is a column I never imagined I would write for the newspaper.
But it’s come to a point that I feel I need to write this.
I’m not writing this for pity because that’s the last thing I want. I’m writing this so some of you will think before opening your mouth, in hopes that I can save someone else the pain that has been inflicted on me so often without the person realizing it … thinking they are helping.
Many of you know, but even more of you don’t, that my husband and I lost a baby in December, two weeks before Christmas. It was our first pregnancy and I was in the beginning of my second trimester. It’s the worst thing that has ever has ever happened to me, and while the pain gets easier to handle, I know our loss will always be with us. I’ll forever be thinking of my baby in heaven, even if we are blessed with other babies.
This isn’t about all the hurtful things people said to me, being sincere and trying to say something that would make me feel better … “It’s going to be Okay” … “It was God’s will” … “Maybe there was something wrong with the baby” … “It’s not that bad” … “At least you lost the baby now instead of later” … and on and on and on.
While I know [God allowed it to happen], that’s something I had to realize on my own. While I knew in my mind that it was going to be Okay eventually, I didn’t feel like it would be Okay at the time. And it’s not Okay. My baby is gone.
And it doesn’t matter how far along someone is in her pregnancy, when she loses her baby, most of the time it’s going to be an unbearable pain that she suffers for a long time.
If you know someone this has happened to, please don’t ignore her pain, or the father’s, because you don’t know what to say or you’re uncomfortable – because it’s a real loss that needs recognition.
But please just say you’re sorry.
That you’re there to lend an ear or a hug if they want you to. You’re praying for them, thinking of them. Cry with them if you want to. But leave it at that, unless you really know what you’re talking about.
If you don’t, I can promise that more than 85 percent of the time it’s going to hurt that person more than help them.
I know people only had good intentions when they said insensitive things to me and don’t harbor bad feelings, but it really hurt.
But this isn’t about that. It’s about comments that are made, most of the time with good intentions, to someone that probably isn’t pregnant at the time.
“Isn’t it about time you had a baby?” … “Why don’t you have a baby yet?” … “Why don’t you have children?” … “You need to hurry up and catch up with the rest of us.”
Or the comments that are made if someone has gained weight but aren’t pregnant … “When’s the due date?” … “Congratulations! So when are you due?” … “I didn’t know you were pregnant!” … “Are you pregnant?”
Not that it’s anybody’s business.
I know these are usually meant to be harmless, friendly comments and inquiries. But the fact is, you don’t know what that person has been going through.
Please pay attention to this so others aren’t hurt.
How do you know you aren’t asking someone, as in my case, who recently lost a baby? Or who has been trying to have one but can’t? And if she’s not in these categories, she’s probably going to get ticked off that you’re asking a question that is personal and quite frankly none of your business.
I was in that last category for quite a while after my marriage, especially after I put on a few extra “happy pounds.”
I know all I have just said may seem somewhat harsh to some of you, but that’s not my intention. I’m not reprimanding or looking for apologies.
I just want to make people aware of a very real problem, in order to hopefully aid in someone else’s grief.
My heart goes out to all of you who suffer this pain and my prayers are with all families who experience a loss such as this. God bless you.
If you're wondering what else you can do other than the things I describe above, perhaps some food brought in their time of need would be appreciated. Casseroles like my shrimp casserole or chicken enchilada casserole (just realized to my dismay this recipe is not posted as I thought it was - will have to share sometime!) are always a favorite of mine to bring to others in times of grief or in times of happiness. Both are comforting and delicious, and can easily be refrigerated or frozen until it's needed if the person isn't able to eat it right away.
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